DEALING WITH GRIEF AND LOSS

By TAMARA CUMMINS
                                               
    "I give you my deepest sympathy," they say but do they really mean it or is it just a social norm?
This was one of my thoughts while I was going through my period of grief or I should say as I experienced loss. Whether the person's death was expected or not, whenever Death visits it still has a stifling effect; as if you were admiring the Sun then all at once you are faced with total darkness and deficient of oxygen. Disbelief floods your mind as you wonder how? why? or even question if there's really a God; and if there is why would he cause your Sun to be taken away? If Death is said to be inevitable, then why is something so inevitable so hard to accept?

  For me, it was October 8,2016. It's crazy when I think about it; quite unbelievable too and I, myself still question why? The thing is that no answer actually soothes the pain. There's no true antidote to cure you; free you of this aching, empty heart. Don't cry, wipe your tears they say, but I say cry let it all out and if crying isn't your thing then run, write, sing, scream it all out; trust me it helps. Does it take it all away? The answer to that is no. However, what I can tell you is that it eventually gets easier to cope with. Take some time to think and to relish in the memories you shared with that person because they will always be apart of you.

 I lost a mother, a grandmother, "sesh partner", a travel buddy and a friend. I vividly remember her smile; which made flowers bloom and birds sing.The way she laughed was so contagious and full of life. I remember her shoulders being the pillars I cried upon and her embrace being the haven that delicately engulfed me with love. I remember her telling me on that moonlit night that I should always remember that I'm a Princess. I remember her being my strength when I thought I hadn't any. I remember her scoldings that were laced with love and her priceless pieces of advice. I remember her holding my hand that Thursday afternoon on our way to the hospital. Oh, what a phenomenal being she was!

 Today marks one year since my Sun was lost and let me be honest it hurts; maybe hurt is just an understatement but with each fleck of pain I'm going to remember and be thankful that I had a Sun and like a badge of honor I'll proudly carry the lessons and memories with me throughout life and bloom into the rose she knew that I was meant to be.

 To the person reading this, I see you and I feel for you. I pray that my experience helps to give you the strength that you need to continue on your journey.
- xoxo Tamara

In Loving Memory of Ernistine Carmelita Rose
 December 15, 1947- October 8,2016
 Continue to Rest In Everlasting Peace Gran

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  1. Unknown8 October 2017 at 11:36

    Absolutely heart touching...well done ❤❤

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  2. Unknown15 October 2017 at 09:54

    😏❤❤

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  3. Anonymous26 January 2021 at 13:47

    Lovely❤️ heart touching post. Thank you for sharing. May your grandma rest in peace.

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