Dear me...

By TAMARA CUMMINS

 As children growing up, we are always encouraged by the elders around us to forgive and forget. You must always forgive others when they've done you wrong they say,  but no one ever says how difficult it is and that in your attempts to let go you should also forgive yourself. Through my experiences, I've learnt that saying I forgive you is not as easy as it sounds. It takes strength and courage to acknowledge that yes I was wronged and yes it hurts but if I am to grow and develop I choose to forgive you. What does it even mean to forgive? To me, it means to let go and as simple as it sounds it is one of the most difficult things to do.

No one loves to feel pain, no one wants to be hurt, it's never an option on our bucket list.  People make mistakes, we are humans. Some people choose to cause harm and no being human does not make it right but holding on to the pain and acting out of a place of hurt helps no one especially not you. As we progress along life's path we must let go to facilitate our development. We must let go of the things that hurt us and the faces behind those actions. Most importantly we must forgive ourselves for the harm we have caused ourselves whether directly or indirectly. So today I take a stand to let go, to grow, to forgive those who have wronged me and to forgive myself for the harm that I've done.

Dear me,
I know that you are a vibrant soul full of love and have everyone's best interest at heart but in your quest for growth remember one thing also forgive yourself. Forgive me for thinking that you weren't good enough, that the mistakes of others were reflections of the person you are. Forgive me for believing the lies they told, for harbouring the thought that happiness is a luxury that you didn't deserve. Forgive me for making myself less than to cushion his sense of masculinity.  Forgive me for allowing others to take advantage of your good heart and for placing the things you wanted and needed on the back burner. Forgive me for listening to the voices that said that you couldn't do it. Forgive me for all of the times that I didn't love you the way that I should. Forgive me for all of the times I subscribed to the idea of society's view of what you should be because girl have you seen yourself you rock! Forgive me for holding onto things that caused more harm than good for far too long. Forgive me. Forgive me for not seeing the phenomenal being God created you to be.

-xoxo Mara


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  1. Adventures With Mara9 January 2019 at 11:47

    Welcome Adventurers, thank you for reading today's post. It's a new year and we are leaving bad habits and pain in the past where they belong. It is the season for greatness, joy ,success, growth and forgiveness. Comment what you are forgiving yourself of. Remember to subscribe and share to your friends and family.Cheers to an amazing year .

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  2. Unknown9 January 2019 at 13:29

    I forgive me 😭💜❤

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